Who said reaching mid-life meant romance and intimacy had to stop? In fact, for some couples, this is the perfect time to reconnect and learn about each other again. And for those mid-lifers who are still single or have recently been divorced, it’s never too late to pull that anchor up and set sail out into the sea of love!
Long gone are those days you would wait by the phone, hoping for someone to call you and ask you out on a date. And sending love letters through the mail is so yesterday! In today’s fast-paced world there are more ways to communicate than ever before with emails, text messaging, Facebook, Twitter and other types of social media. Ladies and Gents, there are a lot of fish in the sea, but the kind of lure you use will determine your success in catching the right one. It’s time to up your game because dating and keeping your current relationship hot has considerably changed.
Now mind you, it’s been a rather long long time since I’ve been in the dating game as I’ve been married for 23 years to my high school sweetheart, so I’m not an expert at the dating parts, but girls are now taking an interest in my teen boys by texting hearts and flirty faces. Flirtexting is not just for singles and high schoolers, they certainly can shed a light on flirting in a marriage as well.
That said, I know of two women who are the “Dear Abby’s” of digital dating, Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, best-selling authors of “FLIRTEXTING: How to Text Your Way into His Heart.” Whether you are single, or have a significant other, they can share with you how to navigate the Internet so that you can plan the perfect date.
From finding the hottest restaurants in your city, to looking up directions to figuring out what to wear, they can cover it all if you are coupled up. And if you are not in a relationship this year, they can help you plan a girls or boys night out on the town. Some of their digital dating do’s and don’ts include:
- DO wait for him to add you on Facebook. Our mom’s always taught us to let the man reach out first. If it’s just a friend, feel free to send a request. But if it’s someone you have a crush on, same old school rules apply.
- DO use the Internet on your phone to your advantage. Everything you need to plan the perfect night out or night in is available at your fingertips.
- DO respond back to a message within 24 hours to show interest. Since our little black books have gone digital, people have come to expect immediate responses. It’s okay to wait a little bit to get back to the person courting you, but avoid waiting too long.
- DON’T over saturate yourself on social media. That means don’t email, BBM, Facebook, text, and tweet your crush all at once. Figure out what is going to be more effective and go with that.
- DON’T overuse abbreviations and symbols in your messages. Understanding that text has created a new, abbreviated language, it’s still more attractive to spell out your words while in the beginning stages of a relationship.