I really don’t like the term “Mid Life Crisis”. Not everything in my life after the beautiful age of 40 is a crisis. In fact, it’s more of an “eye opener” to me. I mean think about it, would you really want to go back to being 18 or 20-something? I don’t know about you, but I was seriously stupid. I swear I thought I was brilliant, but I look back on myself now and I think “Really? What were you thinking??”
To give myself the benefit of the doubt, I actually was more mature than some of my colleagues and college friends, as I was already starting a business, networking, and traveling, but there are still a lot of things I know now that I wish I knew then. In fact, I thought I would have had my life in order by the time I reached this age, but it’s more of a mess than I figured.
There are a lot of things about myself I still have to figure out and now is the time because changes are up ahead.
Changes in family as my kids reach adult-hood.
Changes in my career as I get bored easier.
Changes in my love life as I have more time to be with my husband.
Changes in my health as I start to gain weight, feel the aches, and lacking the energy
Despite all the changes, I actually like being in my 40s. I’m not too dumb like I was in my 20s, yet I’m not too old to start planning Assisted Living. I’m wise enough to know what I really want in life and mature enough to know protesting and crying about it won’t get me there.
Being mid-life means knowing who your true friends are, knowing that family isn’t always blood-related, knowing that you should hold yourself accountable for mistakes and apologies are not a sign of weakness.
Being mid-life means that MY life finally matters to me and to make changes I have to start with myself.
Think for myself.
Live for myself.
What are some of the changes in your life that you WILL start focusing on to better YOURSELF this new year?
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