I read this article today and I was so impressed! This is how my husband and I raised our children! I love my children with all my heart and would do almost anything for them, but they are not EVERYTHING to me. They are PART of me, just like my husband is part of me. I love my children, I love my husband, and I love myself too, so in order to balance that out, I cannot make my children EVERYTHING.
Parents, trust me when I say, I completely understand that you love your kids and they are the most important people in the world to you. And honestly, its parental instinct to protect them from every possible bad vibe out there and give them what they want. That’s fine, but they should not be EVERYTHING to you.
If I immersed my life around my children alone, did everything for them, or gave everything to them, they would not value me as an individual or respect me as a parent. They would instead use me as a stepping stone to their own entitlements and cry whey then did not get their way, even when they were older adults. My kids have become better kids because I have put them in their place as children and because of that, we have become an amazingly close family!