My children are not EVERYTHING to me and that makes me a better parent

I read this article today and I was so impressed! This is how my husband and I raised our children! I love my children with all my heart and would do almost anything for them, but they are not EVERYTHING to me. They are PART of me, just like my husband is part of me. I love my children, I love my husband, and I love myself too, so in order to balance that out, I cannot make my children EVERYTHING.

Parents, trust me when I say, I completely understand that you love your kids and they are the most important people in the world to you. And honestly, its parental instinct to protect them from every possible bad vibe out there and give them what they want. That’s fine, but they should not be EVERYTHING to you.

If I immersed my life around my children alone, did everything for them, or gave everything to them, they would not value me as an individual or respect me as a parent. They would instead use me as a stepping stone to their own entitlements and cry whey then did not get their way, even when they were older adults. My kids have become better kids because I have put them in their place as children and because of that, we have become an amazingly close family!

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5 Comments Add yours

  1. LydiaA1614 says:

    I love this. In some families (like mine growing up) the children are left feeling that they are nothing. In others, as you and the article say, are everything. There needs to be a happy medium – give and take. Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. Kat M says:

      Agreed Lydia! Children should feel loved, but feeling loved doesn’t mean getting everything they want or being first and foremost in the family!

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  2. Beautiful written and I did see this piece of article floating on Facebook and thought would read later.
    You summarize so well. I am facing this problem of not able to take care of my aging parents physically as they are 7000 miles away. I do not deny what my siblings say – it should be always everyone responsibilities. I am going to take care of my parents.

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    1. Kat M says:

      You have a good heart and I believe fully that we are destined to care for our aging parents as well. Sadly many are left alone to slowly die in an elderly home (if their kids are even kind enough to set them up in one). Take care of your parents, I wish you and your family years of good health and blessings.

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      1. Thank you so much Kat for your kind words.

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